Make the most of Life.. how ever you interpret it

I had a long day today. I got back home, made a nice cup of milo, did some reading to prepare ahead of a risk assessment seminar for tomorrow. I then decided to call it a day and went to bed. While listening to Mariah Carey’s ‘bye bye’ i suddenly started thinking of my grandmother. It suddenly struck me that shes gone. I mean i knew she died but all this while even when she died i never shed a tear. I was sad.. Yes.. but i never shed a tear. And now its October 21st. Exactly 3 months later from the day she died. And it hit me that she’s gone and i suddenly miss her so much.

My mom’s birthday is on October 16th. In fact it was just last Thursday and while talking on the phone with her i happened to ask her. “Ma, so who called you today?” and she replied the names of the people who had done so and then suddenly started to tear up. I asked her what was wrong, and she said. “Every year my parents will call me and wish me 1st thing in the morning at 7am. Last year both my father and mother called me and wished me, in one year i have lost both my father and mother.” I felt so bad for her and didn't know what to say.

Life really is short, my friend in Kuala Belait also lost a dear one just a few days ago. I mean yea, we always say that life’s short and that we should make the most of it. The thing is.. Are we making the most of it?

Well, personally i don't really know what making the most of it means. I interpret it to mean, doing things to make your loved ones happy. For eg. My mother always says ‘love you suresh’ at the end of our phone conversations. My exact reply would normally be ‘hmm ok, bye’ i mean i just couldn’t say it and so for me i have begun ‘making the most of it’ by starting to say ‘love you too’ back to my mom. And i know its hard to tell through the phone. But every time i say it now i can just tell by her voice that she is so happy.

‘Three small words for a man. One giant leap for a loved one.‘ quote by me . lol



Suresh :)

mini daddy issues

My biggest regrets? Definitely not as dramatic as su! Seriously, i don’t think anyone can beat su. I mean that guy ran into troubles more than anyone of us! At one point, he was punished by having to open and close the gates continuously for 1 hour! It must have really caught the joggers in his neighborhood by surprise and much curiosity. The moral of the lesson is: Open the gate when your dad is coming home! And to close it, DO NOT swing it close.

One thing common between my dad and his dad is their full-time discipline enforcement at home. Our dads are nice friendly and all on the exterior. They behave like the most carefree person ever. But back home, they are one hell of a disciplinary dad. Here’s five of my dad’s strangest set of rules for my family:

a. Drink PLENTY of water. Everyone one of us, me, my bro and my mum must bring a bottle of water wherever we go. Everytime when i texted him just to say hi, his typical reply would be: “OK take care. Drink plenty of water.”

b. Wash our feet when we get home. My whole family has this habit of going to the toilet every single moment we stepped into the house. “It is to keep the house to clean”

c. Cars must be washed and kept clean. I used to having to clean my car at least once a week. But now thanks to my super maid, she does it for me :D And the worse thing is, we had to wash it. Not just wipe it with soaked clothes. "Cos the grains of sand could actually scratch the car"

d. DO NOT drink. I’m not allowed to drink any alcoholic drinks beside shandy. But he himself does it a lot. He goes to KL like goin to work at night. Well he used to. He changed in that sense.

e. NO snacks. Well, not too much anyway. Seriously, I’m not allowed to have too many crackers or chocolatey biscuits or MILO! He thinks they are what the chinese say “hot”. Not good for the body. He says we could get ill or sore our throat.

Overall, he’s amazing though. I learnt a hell lot from him. One day when i have a kid or kids, I’m gonna be just like him! I love dad.

Hao

My biggest regrets.....well, at one point in my life. :D

a) (1990, age 4) - Calling a friend in kindergarden 1 stupid and as a result being scolded for the 1st time in my life in School

b) (1992, age 6) - Fooling the girl i had a crush on to show me her panties in Primary 1 and she threatened to tell her parents if i didn't do her homework. I am still in contact with her now, but i don't think she reads this blog.

c) (1993, age 7) - Fooling around with the neighbors daughter and she told my mom later that day. The look my mom gave me. It still haunts me. As for the girl, they left for the UK later that year.

d) (1993, age 7) - Bought marbles with money i found in my moms handbag and her finding the bag of 100 marbles in my drawer.

e) (1994, age 8) - Having sleepless nights because i didn't have the money to pay for a calligraphy pen i broke, i spent 5 days hiding out in the flats behind St Georges from 12.30pm to 5.30pm.

f) (1999, age 13) - Burning a certain someone in her hands and being questioned by her parents.

g) (2000, age 14) - Always borrowing money in form 1,2 and 3 and not knowing how to pay back. {p.s. i paid her back}

h) (2000, age 14) - Telling an uncle to his face to talk in Indian if he cant talk proper English. {i was known as the family "kurang ajar"}

i) (2000, age 14) - Not being able to look at parents for 6months in the eye after having carved 2 rectangles on my spectacle lenses.

j) (2006, age 20) - The moment my Prado started spinning in Subok. There was a person walking on the pavement. I saw her but managed to avoid her.

I did realize something though, as i grew older i tend to hurt others less, which is a good thing. :D haha.. I wrote down all this things to remind myself that though at that moment i was very very scared for the things i had done, i realized i moved on and now looking back at what i did, it all seems very funny (EXCEPT for the PRADO INCIDENT) I did learn a lesson from that though.. NEVER ever think you can make a 135 degree turn in a prado at 90kmph.. :D

Suresh :D